The easiest way to ensure that you don’t end up falling in love with some guy before you’re ready to get married is to avoid making friends with boys. Of course in school you have to interact with boys all over the place, but that doesn’t mean you should be best buds with them. Probably 90% of relationships begin from friendships. Chances are you’re not ready for marriage, your parents aren’t ready to let you get married, you’re still in school/college and your crush is not the sort of fellow you want to spend the rest of your life with, so just avoid being friends with him in the first place. It really is the best way of saving yourself from needless temptation.
When you have to talk to boys in school as teammates, lab partners, group members, and peers, it’s best to maintain a distance. That means that you don’t confide in them, you don’t let down your guard, you don’t unnecessarily engage them in needless conversation, and never flirt. Yeah it may be a little hard, but this is your afterlife we’re talking about.
So many great sisters have put themselves in really sticky situations because they allowed a boy to get to know them, and either ended up liking the boy, or having the boy like them. once that happens you either end up becoming a pair (which is HARAAM!), or having to end your friendship.
Instead of letting it get to that point, and then having to kill a friendship that you probably worked hard on cultivating, you should just stop it before it begins. There are plenty of great girls all around who can be your friends and if you really think only a guy will understand your problem, then talk to your REAL brother, or your father.
Being a women is tough guarding our modesty and following Islam, if sisters wish not talk to guys and they constantly harassing, annoying us what should a sisters do mostly if we're dressed modestly but they don't seem to get a clue were not interested?.. is it okay if we kick box them Lool just kidding but it's a serious issue with most of us sisters any advice? They don't seem to get we don't want to talk to them not just Muslim man non Muslim man also, I even dislike walking alone
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu,
The only advice that I can give is to ignore him. Keep ignoring him; it will work and a time will come he will get tired when he will not get any response. If it’s necessary to talk then don’t talk to him in a soft voice.
Allaah says: “… then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.” [al-Ahzaab:32] So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily rude, yet it is polite but firm.
You don’t like to walk alone, if you have to walk then I suggest you to do dhikr, in this way the time will pass and you will get the reward as well.
“Don’t think about what can happen in a month. Don’t think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.”—Eric Thomas (via onlinecounsellingcollege)