There might come a day that Allah allows you to fall in love, and when you do you’ll be unable to fall out of it. And so he’ll put it into your heart to pursue her, and you’ll do whatever it takes to have her. Then one day you’ll go to her father and ask for her hand, and Allah will soften her father’s heart so that he’ll allow the union between you. You will marry her, and realize how lucky you are, and that despite her flaws you have been given the perfect complement to yourself. You can see in her eyes everything good you want for yourself, and you realize that every night that good lies beside you. Marriage will be difficult, she’ll be difficult, but she’ll be something you’ll pursue the best in, always thinking of her first, considering how she feels, and determined to treat her better than any other man on earth could have.
And so you two will grow old together, and if you did things right you’ll fall in love with her again and again and again each day, but only if you realize that love isn’t something you find but something you create. It’s something that abounds from the realization that you are both flawed, the realization that you’re both frayed, and that your union works best when following God’s design. You see his design and see that Allah braids you two together, and despite your flaws and your fraying, you’re made stronger than you two ever were separate. You’ll realize that your families should be there for you, that being patient and not rushing is a key to success, and that putting God before each other is most important.
Then there will come a day when you realize that losing her would be worse than death itself, and so you hope and pray to God that you pass away before she does, because otherwise you know you would live the rest of your life dying from the poison of your broken heart. So you pray and pray and pray that God bring you home, before he brings her, not only so that you don’t have to live without her, but so that you can beg God to let her in to jannah for how perfect she has been to you."
"I don’t want to get hurt again… "
Just like you, I am only human and I don’t run from making mistakes. Most of you here are young and beautiful and passionate about many things in life. and Yes, as you grow more and more mature, there will come a time that you seek companion. Not from a girl, but from the opposite sex. I’ve been there.
I won’t judge you and I understand and know how it feels like to be in love. MasyaAllah, love is a beautiful feeling and emotion that Allah has blessed us with. But sisters, do not allow yourself to be trapped in the emotions of love that will cause you to go further and further away from Allah. Know why? Because Allah is the owner of our hearts, and only HE should be kept in your heart and not anybody else. When our love for something or someone takes us out of the boundaries of Islam, that ‘love’ that may once have been pure, becomes polluted and tainted.
boyfriends are not allowed in Islam. It is forbidden. Having a relationship before marriage (boyfriend or girlfriend) is strictly forbidden. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upom him, is reported to have stated that “whenever two strangers of the opposite gender are alone with each other, Satan becomes the third one between them.” (At-Tirmidhi)”
There is no such thing as “dating” in Islam. When young Muslims are able to marry, they are encouraged to find a suitable partner for marriage, following strict rules of courtship, and always keeping the intention of marriage at the forefront of any interaction.
the heart and the mind are the most powerful organs that Allah SWT has blessed us with. Never ever give control of them to anyone besides Allah SWT. Otherwise, you will be hurt and hurt very badly. Take it from me. I am not proud to say this but I have done this before and It left me devastated, hurt, broken, depressed..just completely crazy. And now, it is my duty as your ‘big sister / kakak’ to tell you to not commit yourself in any relationship before marriage because my experience was excrutiating.
Janganlah adik-adik semua nak bercouple, couple tu haram di sisi Islam. When the time comes for you to get married, place your trust in Allah and know that your parents (as your guardians) have all the right to find a rightful spouse for you. In any instance that you like/have found someone, be sure to tell your parents too…and trust me, with the will of Allah, all things will fall into place. Orang melayu kata “Jodoh tak ke mana” =) Umar Al Khattab said it best - ” If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee”.
I’d also like to share with you this beautiful quote from Sis Yasmin Mogahed:
"Our completion comes from God and our relationship with Him. And yet, from the time we were little, we, as women, have been taught, that we will never reach completion until a man comes to complete us. Like Cinderella we were taught that we are helpless unless a prince comes to save us. Like Sleeping Beauty, we were told that our life doesn’t fully begin, until Prince Charming kisses us. But here’s the thing: no prince can complete you. And no knight can save you. Only God can."
So, SAY NO TO PRE-MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS. Allah knows BEST.
p/s: I agreed to an Arranged Marriage set by my parents =) I was engaged for 8 months, and my fiance (now husband) and I never went out, no dates, no late night out, no touching and heyy Alhamdulillahx10000, i am happily married now. true story <3
I love you all, for the sake of Allah, and this advise is all from my heart.
Your sister - Nadia.
The Beauty of Prayer
This is a photo I shot right after the completion of my sister’s nikah, or Islamic marriage, while she was making a supplication to God. Although it seems like such a simple action, it is so valuable for every Muslim. It is simply raising your hands to ask your wishes from God, to pray for yourself and everyone around you. In essence it’s a simple action, but there is so much beauty involved. It is form of a connection one can have with God by praying and making dua, or supplication. It is especially important for Muslims to continue making dua during the last few nights of Ramadan. For Muslims, Ramadan is a time for spiritual connection with God, and self reflection. And what better way to both assess yourself and connect with God than by simply raising your hands and asking. Muslims believe that God is the Most Merciful, and what better way to ask for his mercy than to raise your hands in his honor and ask.
Characteristics of an emotionally abusive relationship include:
· Using money as a means of control
· Threatening to walk out or abandon you
· Creating fear and anxiety through looks, words, threats and actions
· Destroying things (and often things you value) – either in a cold and heartless…
Things Not to Do in Ramadan
• Avoid things that invalidate Fasting
• No indecent Gaze & Thoughts
• Don’t listen to the Music
• No Arguing & Fighting
• No Lying & Backbiting
• Quit Smoking in Ramadan
• Don’t indulge yourself in Useless Activities
• Don’t lose Hope while quitting Bad Habits
If Allah loves you more than a mother, you shouldn’t be ashamed of crying to Him like a baby.
- Abu Maryam