1. Shared sense of humour; lots of laughter and fun
2. Little gestures of thoughtfulness
3. Personal space (there needs to be separateness in your togetherness)
4. Having the ability to spend hours together (simply doing routine or humdrum things)
5. Having “fairness and respect” rules in…
“How was your day?”
“Text me when you get home so I know you’re safe”
“How are you?”
“I hope you’re feeling better”
“Have a good day today!”
“I miss you”
“Can you come over?”
“Can I come over?”
“Can I see you?”
“Can I call you?”
“Want something to drink?”
“Watch your step”
“Let’s watch a movie”
“What are you up to?”
“How is your day so far?”
“It will be okay”
“I’m here for you”
“Do you need anything?”
“Are you hungry?”
“I just wanted to hear your voice”
“You just made my day”
You don’t have to hear “I Love You” to know that someone does. Listen carefully. People speak from the heart more often than you think."
"People change their minds quickly and they are moody. Sometimes they are grateful to what you do but other times they are not. It saddens us a lot when we do things and people don’t appreciate it. We spend all of our lives trying to gain their love. They may love you today and hate you tomorrow. Be wise and look a bit beyond the tip of your nose! When you seek Allah’s love and He loves you back, He orders Gibreel, peace be upon him to love you. Gibreel then orders the angels in heavens to love you. Acceptance is then laid down for you on earth. Therefore, if you want the love of people, seek your Lord’s love and He will make them love you without any effort from you. "
Who else but our mothers? To them, be it wrong or right, we will always be their children. They carried us in their wombs for months, went through pain to have us, molded us, taught us, helped us through thick and thin. The least we can do is respect them, and take good care of their fragile hearts.
someone told me once that “blink blink” is cat for “I love you”
I’m sure this is total bullshit but i choose to believe it.
cats are hardcore man. instead of going, “i love you,” or whatever, they’re just like, “YOU ARE NEITHER MY ENEMY NOR MY PREY AND I THUS ALLOW YOU TO BE IN MY UNGUARDED PRESENCE.”
Annoyed? Angered? Irritated? Frustrated? Tried all the music genres in the world but nothing gives you what you’re actually looking for?
Watched episodes over episodes of every season available and you thought that’s all what life has to offer to you? Encircled by friends day in and day out and forgot what YOU are actually meant for?
Got deceived into thinking that life is just a game? Enslaved by chants of YOLO?
"And the worldly life is nothing but amusement and diversion; but the home of the Hereafter is best for those who fear Allah, so will you not understand?" [Al Qur’an 6:32]
Know that those who fear worldly creatures flee from them but those who fear Allah fly to Him.
”..fly to Allah…” (Surah Adh-Dhariyat - Ayah:50)
So let’s fly to Him, beg Him and beseech Him and be enveloped in His special Mercy.
1. Believing negative, unproductive and self-defeating thoughts. These include thoughts like “I could never … I’m not good enough to … I don’t deserve to … I’m useless at …”
2. Blaming others. It’s true that other people can have a huge affect on what happens to us, and where we are in life. But…
An emotionally abusive person may “dismiss your feelings and needs, expect you to perform humiliating or unpleasant tasks, manipulate you into feeling guilty for trivial things, belittle your outside support system or blame you for unfortunate circumstances in his or her life. Jealousy,…
Fall in Love with the Real Thing
In another ayah, God says:بَلْ تُؤْثِرُونَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا (16) وَالْآَخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ وَأَبْقَى (17
“But you prefer the worldly life, while the Hereafter is better and more enduring.” (87:16-17)
The Real version is better in quality (خَيْرٌ) and better in quantity (أَبْقَىٰ). No matter how great what we love in this life is, it will always have some deficiency, in both quality (imperfections) and quantity (temporary).
This is not to say that we cannot have or even love things of this life. As believers we are told to ask for good in this life and the next. But it is like the toy car and the real car. While we could have or even enjoy the toy car, we realize the difference. We understand fully that there is a lesser model (dunya: coming from the root word ‘daniya’, meaning ‘lower’) and there is the Real model (hereafter).
~ Yasmin Mogahed
Out of curiosity, he takes a peek.
Out of modesty, she looks away.
Two in love but cannot say.
She has been saving herself for the one and only.
And in her eyes he can see innocence and purity.
Out of this, his desire grows, the fire in him almost shows.
He keeps his distance, stays far away,
He wouldn’t want what is bad for the one
who took his breath away.
Late at night the door bell rings,
Her heart beats loud and her soul sings.
The talking below, she hears.
So clear in her mother’s eyes.
She can see a tear.
He has finally come to take her away.
In the play ground of love they will finally play.
He will protect her and treat her well like a real man should.
She would try to love him, please him,
And care for him as best as she could.
This is love and how it should be.
How Allah intended it to be.
Love is love and it shouldn’t change.
But everyday its meaning seems to fade away.
Love is sweet and should have an innocent start.
And later on, it will pour endlessly from your heart.
Guard your heart, love, body, and soul.
And In Shaa Allah release them only to the one,
Whose name is written in the sky,
Friends, if you have been praying constantly and consistently about something but there hasn’t been any change/improvements, do not despair. Allah always hears, and Allah is never late. And never stop making Dua, because Allah will surely grant it in one of the following ways:
1) He gives exactly what was asked.
2) He gives something even better than what was asked.
3) He withholds but only to prevent a greater evil from the one who asked.
4) He withholds it but only to give something better in the Hereafter.
My friend, I did this, then that and you know all of it this and that.
By Allaah, stop revealing what Allaah Azza Wa Jall chosen to conceal for you.
Don’t just go out there and confess to people about your problems or your secrets especially your sins.
Know there are reasons why people do not know this, why people never thought about you like this, and that is what your call the concealment of Allaah Azza Wa Jall.
What does it make you feel after speaking about what happened to you or what you have done, does it bring such relief? Maybe, for a while.
Yes, for a while and I mean that as long as you and the person you’ve told it doesn’t went or doesn’t go into such argument or discussion that leads to some fight, because you know when things get rough, the best weapon that a person (who wants to bring you down) has is your secrets.
Why do you like confessing to these people? They are people, they aren’t perfect they can definitely think bad of you even if they say no I understand you or this and that, but in reality my dear, humans are made to be this “nosy” its hard for them to control their tongues, its a struggle.
Islam has a gift within it that you find in Salaah, its that direct communication to Allaah Azza Wa Jall, we aren’t given people to confess to so we can expiate some sins, this is one of the millions of beauty that Islam has.
When you confess my dear, confess to Allaah Azza Wa Jall, why?
Because Allaah Azza Wa Jall is the One who can bring peace in your heart, who can answer your questions, who can guide you from darkness to light, who can hear and see everything that you do, but still forgives and never gets tired of giving out His Mercy and Blessings Upon You.
When you repent to Him, he forgives. When you ask of Him, He gives and answers.
What else do you need? Would you rather be given 20 second relief than a lifetime of ease and peace in your heart?
People you confess to, they don’t really care, because in reality everyone has their own problems, yes they can give advice and tell you this and that, Yeah, I’ve been there and all…
but just observe, just reflect that at the end of the day, where do you find yourself, who do you call out? Isn’t it Allaah Azza Wa Jall? Isn’t it the same scene every night, in your bed, you’re calling out, O Allaah… O Allaah… O Allaah….
Allaah Azza Wa Jall is the Only One who can really Help you, so why seek help from others when you Have Him to Help you? isn’t Allaah Azza Wa Jall sufficient enough for you that you let all these people talk about you behind your back?
I love you for the sake of Allaah Azza Wa Jall, so I ask of you before you would want to confess to anyone, why not consider confessing it first to the One Who Hears and Sees and Know everything?
and we pray that Allaah Azza Wa Jall gives us the heart that is so mindful of Him that at the time we wake up it is His Name that we Call and at the time when we sleep it is still His Name that we Call upon.
TWO-BROWNGIRLS : TWO-FAITHS
While both of us were studying at University, we came across this post by Dora Dalila,which inspired us to think about how our own friendship stretches across two faiths.
Centuries of tension have existed between Muslims and Sikhs; whether we look at Mughal history, 20th Century partition or even modern day media headlines, there seems to be a constant fuel added to the fire between both of our religious communities.
Throughout University we both started to look deeper into our own faiths and had endless discussions with each other about God, religion etc. Through this dialogue we learnt how our faiths are clearly unique but also how they share numerous similarities too.
We don’t agree on everything, but our mutual respect for each other’s opinion proves the possibility of sharing a strong bond with someone who holds different beliefs. It also taught us the importance of a fresh perspective on what religion and spirituality really is.
Remember: We are not undermining or dismissing the shared history of bloodshed between Sikhs and Muslims. But its important we do not let this history prevent a healthy dialogue between both of our communities. This will allow us to tackle existing issues much better than if we are constantly working against each-other, fuelling hatred and racism.
We hope you enjoy this little photo-set that shows that we may do things differently, but ultimately we’re the same.
- A&S x
He creates you in the wombs of your mothers, creation after creation, within three darknesses. That is Allah , your Lord; to Him belongs dominion. There is no deity except Him, so how are you turned away? (Qur’an 39:6)